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How a Christian should
deal with Family
To your parents of old age and
extended family
1 Tim. 5:3-16
Give proper recognition to those widows who are really in need.
4But if a widow has children or grandchildren,
these should learn first of all to put their religion into practice by
caring for their own family and so repaying their parents and
grandparents, for this is pleasing to God. 5The
widow who is really in need and left all alone puts her hope in God and
continues night and day to pray and to ask God for help.
6But the widow who lives for pleasure is dead even while she
lives. 7Give the people these instructions, too,
so that no one may be open to blame. 8If anyone
does not provide for his relatives, and especially for his immediate
family, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever.
9 No widow may be put on the list of widows unless she is over
sixty, has been faithful to her husband, 10and is
well known for her good deeds, such as bringing up children, showing
hospitality, washing the feet of the saints, helping those in trouble
and devoting herself to all kinds of good deeds.
11 As for younger widows, do not put them on such a list. For
when their sensual desires overcome their dedication to Christ, they
want to marry. 12Thus they bring judgment on
themselves, because they have broken their first pledge.
13Besides, they get into the habit of being idle and going about
from house to house. And not only do they become idlers, but also
gossips and busybodies, saying things they ought not to.
14So I counsel younger widows to marry, to have children, to
manage their homes and to give the enemy no opportunity for slander.
15Some have in fact already turned away to follow
Satan.
16 If any woman who is a believer has widows in her family, she
should help them and not let the church be burdened with them, so that
the church can help those widows who are really in need.
Must love God more than you family
Mark 5:18-20
As Jesus was getting into the boat, the man who had been
demon-possessed begged to go with him. 19Jesus did
not let him, but said, "Go home to your family and tell them how much
the Lord has done for you, and how he has had mercy on you."
20So the man went away and began to tell in the
Decapolis how much Jesus had done for him. And all the people were
amazed.
Luke 9:59-62
He said to another man, "Follow me."
But the man replied, "Lord, first let me go and bury my father."
60 Jesus said to him, "Let the dead bury their own dead, but
you go and proclaim the kingdom of God."
61 Still another said, "I will follow you, Lord; but first let
me go back and say good-by to my family."
62 Jesus replied, "No one who puts his hand to the plow and
looks back is fit for service in the kingdom of God."
Luke 12:51-53
Do you think I came to bring peace on earth? No, I tell you, but
division. 52From now on there will be five in one
family divided against each other, three against two and two against
three. 53They will be divided, father against son
and son against father, mother against daughter and daughter against
mother, mother-in-law against daughter-in-law and daughter-in-law
against mother-in-law."
Don’t bring destruction to your family
Proverbs 11:29
He who brings trouble on his family will inherit only wind,
and the fool will be servant to the wise.
A woman's responsibility
Proverbs 31:15
She gets up while it is still dark;
she provides food for her family
and portions for her servant girls.
Proverbs 31:21
When it snows, she has no fear for her household;
for all of them are clothed in scarlet.
Proverbs 31:27
She watches over the affairs of her household
and does not eat the bread of idleness.
A mans responsibility
Titus 1:6-11
An elder must be blameless, the husband of but one wife, a man whose
children believe and are not open to the charge of being wild and
disobedient. 7Since an overseer is entrusted with
God's work, he must be blameless--not overbearing, not quick-tempered,
not given to drunkenness, not violent, not pursuing dishonest gain.
8Rather he must be hospitable, one who loves what
is good, who is self-controlled, upright, holy and disciplined.
9He must hold firmly to the trustworthy message as
it has been taught, so that he can encourage others by sound doctrine
and refute those who oppose it.
10 For there are many rebellious people, mere talkers
and deceivers, especially those of the circumcision group.
11They must be silenced, because they are
ruining whole households by teaching things they ought not to
teach--and that for the sake of dishonest gain.
Sharing Salvation with Family
Acts 16:31-34
They replied, "Believe in the Lord Jesus, and you will be saved--you
and your household." 32Then they spoke the word of
the Lord to him and to all the others in his house. 33At
that hour of the night the jailer took them and washed their wounds;
then immediately he and all his family were baptized. 34The
jailer brought them into his house and set a meal before them; he was
filled with joy because he had come to believe in God--he and his whole
family.
Genesis 7:1
The Lord then said to Noah, "Go into the ark, you and your whole
family, because I have found you righteous in this generation.
Hebrews 11:7
By faith Noah, when warned about things not yet seen, in holy fear
built an ark to save his family. By his faith he condemned the world and
became heir of the righteousness that comes by faith.
Immediate Family
Men must lead their family
1 Tim. 3:1-7
Here is a trustworthy saying: If anyone sets his heart on being an
overseer, he desires a noble task. 2Now the
overseer must be above reproach, the husband of but one wife, temperate,
self-controlled, respectable, hospitable, able to teach,
3not given to drunkenness, not violent but gentle, not
quarrelsome, not a lover of money. 4He must manage
his own family well and see that his children obey him with proper
respect. 5(If anyone does not know how to manage
his own family, how can he take care of God's church?) 6He
must not be a recent convert, or he may become conceited and fall under
the same judgment as the devil. 7He must also have
a good reputation with outsiders, so that he will not fall into disgrace
and into the devil's trap.
Titus 1:6-9
An elder must be blameless, the husband of but one wife, a man whose
children believe and are not open to the charge of being wild and
disobedient. 7Since an overseer is entrusted with
God's work, he must be blameless--not overbearing, not quick-tempered,
not given to drunkenness, not violent, not pursuing dishonest gain.
8Rather he must be hospitable, one who loves what
is good, who is self-controlled, upright, holy and disciplined.
9He must hold firmly to the trustworthy message as
it has been taught, so that he can encourage others by sound doctrine
and refute those who oppose it.
Responsibility of all family members
Ephes. 5:22-6:4
Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord. 23For
the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church,
his body, of which he is the Savior. 24Now as the
church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands
in everything.
25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church
and gave himself up for her 26to make her holy,
cleansing her by the washing with water through the word,
27and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without
stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless.
28In this same way, husbands ought to love their
wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself.
29After all, no one ever hated his own body, but
he feeds and cares for it, just as Christ does the church--
30for we are members of his body.
31"For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be
united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh."
32This is a profound mystery--but I am talking about Christ and
the church. 33However, each one of you also must
love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her
husband.
6:1 Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right.
2"Honor your father and mother"--which is the
first commandment with a promise-- 3"that it may
go well with you and that you may enjoy long life on the earth."
4 Fathers, do not exasperate your children; instead, bring them
up in the training and instruction of the Lord.
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What the bible says about marriage
MARRIAGE
Hebrews 13:4
Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept
pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually
immoral.
Matthew 22:30
At the resurrection people will neither marry nor be given in
marriage; they will be like the angels in heaven.
1 Tim. 5:14
So I counsel younger widows to marry, to have children, to
manage their homes and to give the enemy no opportunity for
slander.
1 Peter 3:1-7
Wives, in the same way be submissive to your husbands so
that, if any of them do not believe the word, they may be won
over without words by the behavior of their wives,
2when they see the purity and reverence of
your lives. 3Your beauty should not come
from outward adornment, such as braided hair and the wearing of
gold jewelry and fine clothes. 4Instead,
it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a
gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God's sight.
5For this is the way the holy women of the
past who put their hope in God used to make themselves
beautiful. They were submissive to their own husbands,
6like Sarah, who obeyed Abraham and called
him her master. You are her daughters if you do what is right
and do not give way to fear.
7 Husbands, in the same way be considerate as you live
with your wives, and treat them with respect as the weaker
partner and as heirs with you of the gracious gift of life, so
that nothing will hinder your prayers.
Romans 7:2
For example, by law a married woman is bound to her husband
as long as he is alive, but if her husband dies, she is released
from the law of marriage.
Genesis 2:24
For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be
united to his wife, and they will become one flesh.
Exodus 20:17
"You shall not covet your neighbor's house. You shall not
covet your neighbor's wife, or his manservant or
maidservant, his ox or donkey, or anything that belongs to
your neighbor."
Deut. 24:5
If a man has recently married, he must not be sent to war or
have any other duty laid on him. For one year he is to be free
to stay at home and bring happiness to the wife he has married.
1 Cor. 7:1-40
Now for the matters you wrote about: It is good for a man not
to marry. 2But since there is so much
immorality, each man should have his own wife, and each woman
her own husband. 3The husband should
fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to
her husband. 4The wife's body does not
belong to her alone but also to her husband. In the same way,
the husband's body does not belong to him alone but also to his
wife. 5Do not deprive each other except by
mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves
to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt
you because of your lack of self-control. 6I
say this as a concession, not as a command. 7I
wish that all men were as I am. But each man has his own gift
from God; one has this gift, another has that.
8 Now to the unmarried and the widows I say: It is good
for them to stay unmarried, as I am. 9But
if they cannot control themselves, they should marry, for it is
better to marry than to burn with passion.
10 To the married I give this command (not I, but the
Lord): A wife must not separate from her husband.
11But if she does, she must remain unmarried or else be
reconciled to her husband. And a husband must not divorce his
wife.
12 To the rest I say this (I, not the Lord): If any
brother has a wife who is not a believer and she is willing to
live with him, he must not divorce her. 13And
if a woman has a husband who is not a believer and he is willing
to live with her, she must not divorce him. 14For
the unbelieving husband has been sanctified through his wife,
and the unbelieving wife has been sanctified through her
believing husband. Otherwise your children would be unclean, but
as it is, they are holy.
15 But if the unbeliever leaves, let him do so. A
believing man or woman is not bound in such circumstances; God
has called us to live in peace. 16How do
you know, wife, whether you will save your husband? Or, how do
you know, husband, whether you will save your wife?
17Nevertheless, each one should retain the place in
life that the Lord assigned to him and to which God has called
him. This is the rule I lay down in all the churches.
18Was a man already circumcised when he
was called? He should not become uncircumcised. Was a man
uncircumcised when he was called? He should not be circumcised.
19Circumcision is nothing and
uncircumcision is nothing. Keeping God's commands is what
counts. 20Each one should remain in the
situation which he was in when God called him. 21Were
you a slave when you were called? Don't let it trouble
you--although if you can gain your freedom, do so.
22For he who was a slave when he was
called by the Lord is the Lord's freedman; similarly, he who was
a free man when he was called is Christ's slave.
23You were bought at a price; do not become slaves of
men. 24Brothers, each man, as responsible
to God, should remain in the situation God called him to.
25 Now about virgins: I have no command from the Lord,
but I give a judgment as one who by the Lord's mercy is
trustworthy. 26Because of the present
crisis, I think that it is good for you to remain as you are.
27Are you married? Do not seek a divorce.
Are you unmarried? Do not look for a wife. 28But
if you do marry, you have not sinned; and if a virgin marries,
she has not sinned. But those who marry will face many troubles
in this life, and I want to spare you this.
29 What I mean, brothers, is that the time is short.
From now on those who have wives should live as if they had
none; 30those who mourn, as if they did
not; those who are happy, as if they were not; those who buy
something, as if it were not theirs to keep; 31those
who use the things of the world, as if not engrossed in them.
For this world in its present form is passing away.
32 I would like you to be free from concern. An
unmarried man is concerned about the Lord's affairs--how he can
please the Lord. 33But a married man is
concerned about the affairs of this world--how he can please his
wife-- 34and his interests are divided. An
unmarried woman or virgin is concerned about the Lord's affairs:
Her aim is to be devoted to the Lord in both body and spirit.
But a married woman is concerned about the affairs of this
world--how she can please her husband. 35I
am saying this for your own good, not to restrict you, but that
you may live in a right way in undivided devotion to the Lord.
36 If anyone thinks he is acting improperly toward the
virgin he is engaged to, and if she is getting along in years
and he feels he ought to marry, he should do as he wants. He is
not sinning. They should get married. 37But
the man who has settled the matter in his own mind, who is under
no compulsion but has control over his own will, and who has
made up his mind not to marry the virgin--this man also does the
right thing. 38So then, he who marries the
virgin does right, but he who does not marry her does even
better.
39 A woman is bound to her husband as long as he lives.
But if her husband dies, she is free to marry anyone she wishes,
but he must belong to the Lord. 40In my
judgment, she is happier if she stays as she is--and I think
that I too have the Spirit of God.
Wife
Proverbs 5:18
May your fountain be blessed,
and may you rejoice in the wife of your youth.
Proverbs 12:4
A wife of noble character is her husband's crown,
but a disgraceful wife is like decay in his bones.
Proverbs 18:22
He who finds a wife finds what is good
and receives favor from the Lord.
Proverbs 19:13
A foolish son is his father's ruin,
and a quarrelsome wife is like a constant dripping.
Proverbs 31:10-11
A wife of noble character who can find?
She is worth far more than rubies.
11 Her husband has full confidence in her
and lacks nothing of value.
Romans 7:2
For example, by law a married woman is bound to her husband
as long as he is alive, but if her husband dies, she is released
from the law of marriage.
1 Cor. 7:28
But if you do marry, you have not sinned; and if a virgin
marries, she has not sinned. But those who marry will face many
troubles in this life, and I want to spare you this.
Ephes. 5:21
Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.
Husband
Proverbs 31:23
Her husband is respected at the city gate,
where he takes his seat among the elders of the land.
Proverbs 31:28
Her children arise and call her blessed;
her husband also, and he praises her:
1 Tim. 3:12
A deacon must be the husband of but one wife and must manage
his children and his household well.
Titus 1:6
An elder must be blameless, the husband of but one wife, a
man whose children believe and are not open to the charge of
being wild and disobedient.
Malachi 2:13-14
Another thing you do: You flood the Lord's altar with tears.
You weep and wail because he no longer pays attention to your
offerings or accepts them with pleasure from your hands.
14You ask, "Why?" It is because the Lord
is acting as the witness between you and the wife of your youth,
because you have broken faith with her, though she is your
partner, the wife of your marriage covenant.
1 Tim. 3:2
Now the overseer must be above reproach, the husband of but
one wife, temperate, self-controlled, respectable, hospitable,
able to teach,
Widow
1 Cor. 7:39
A woman is bound to her husband as long as he lives. But if
her husband dies, she is free to marry anyone she wishes, but he
must belong to the Lord.
1 Cor. 7:8
Now to the unmarried and the widows I say: It is good for
them to stay unmarried, as I am.
1 Tim. 5:14
So I counsel younger widows to marry, to have children, to
manage their homes and to give the enemy no opportunity for
slander.
Divorce
Malachi 2:16
"I hate divorce," says the Lord God of Israel, "and I hate a
man's covering himself with violence as well as with his
garment," says the Lord Almighty.
So guard yourself in your spirit, and do not break faith.
Matthew 1:19
Because Joseph her husband was a righteous man and did not
want to expose her to public disgrace, he had in mind to divorce
her quietly.
Matthew 5:31-32
"It has been said, 'Anyone who divorces his wife must give
her a certificate of divorce.' 32But I
tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for marital
unfaithfulness, causes her to become an adulteress, and anyone
who marries the divorced woman commits adultery.
Matthew 19:9
I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for
marital unfaithfulness, and marries another woman commits
adultery."
Mark 10:11-12
He answered, "Anyone who divorces his wife and marries
another woman commits adultery against her. 12And
if she divorces her husband and marries another man, she commits
adultery."
Luke 16:18
"Anyone who divorces his wife and marries another woman
commits adultery, and the man who marries a divorced woman
commits adultery.
Matthew 19:3-12
Some Pharisees came to him to test him. They asked, "Is it
lawful for a man to divorce his wife for any and every reason?"
4 "Haven't you read," he replied, "that at the
beginning the Creator 'made them male and female,'
5and said, 'For this reason a man will
leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the
two will become one flesh'? 6So they are
no longer two, but one. Therefore what God has joined together,
let man not separate."
7 "Why then," they asked, "did Moses command that a man
give his wife a certificate of divorce and send her away?"
8 Jesus replied, "Moses permitted you to divorce your
wives because your hearts were hard. But it was not this way
from the beginning. 9I tell you that
anyone who divorces his wife, except for marital unfaithfulness,
and marries another woman commits adultery."
10 The disciples said to him, "If this is the situation
between a husband and wife, it is better not to marry."
11Jesus replied, "Not everyone can accept this word,
but only those to whom it has been given. 12For
some are eunuchs because they were born that way; others were
made that way by men; and others have renounced marriage because
of the kingdom of heaven. The one who can accept this should
accept it."
Conflict
Galatians 5:13-15
You, my brothers, were called to be free. But do not use your
freedom to indulge the sinful nature; rather, serve one another
in love. 14The entire law is summed up in
a single command: "Love your neighbor as yourself."
15If you keep on biting and devouring each
other, watch out or you will be destroyed by each other.
1 Cor. 7:28
But if you do marry, you have not sinned; and if a virgin
marries, she has not sinned. But those who marry will face many
troubles in this life, and I want to spare you this.
Separation
1 Cor. 7:5
Do not deprive each other except by mutual consent and for a
time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come
together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your
lack of self-control.
Adultery
Proverbs 6:32
But a man who commits adultery lacks judgment;
whoever does so destroys himself.
Matthew 5:27-28
"You have heard that it was said, 'Do not commit adultery.'
28But I tell you that anyone who looks at
a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his
heart.
Matthew 15:19
For out of the heart come evil thoughts, murder, adultery,
sexual immorality, theft, false testimony, slander.
Matthew 19:18
"Which ones?" the man inquired.
Jesus replied, " 'Do not murder, do not commit adultery, do
not steal, do not give false testimony,
Mark 10:19
You know the commandments: 'Do not murder, do not commit
adultery, do not steal, do not give false testimony, do not
defraud, honor your father and mother.'"
John 8:3-4
The teachers of the law and the Pharisees brought in a woman
caught in adultery. They made her stand before the group
4and said to Jesus, "Teacher, this woman
was caught in the act of adultery.
Leviticus 20:10
" 'If a man commits adultery with another man's wife--with
the wife of his neighbor--both the adulterer and the adulteress
must be put to death.
Deut. 22:22
If a man is found sleeping with another man's wife, both the
man who slept with her and the woman must die. You must purge
the evil from Israel.
Exodus 20:14
"You shall not commit adultery.
Leviticus 20:10
" 'If a man commits adultery with another man's wife--with
the wife of his neighbor--both the adulterer and the adulteress
must be put to death.
Deut. 5:18
"You shall not commit adultery.
Psalm 51:1
For the director of music. A psalm of David.
When the prophet Nathan came to him after David had committed
adultery with Bathsheba.
Have mercy on me, O God,
according to your unfailing love;
according to your great compassion
blot out my transgressions.
SEX
Read Song of Solomon
1 Cor. 7:1-40
Now for the matters you wrote about: It is good for a man not
to marry. 2But since there is so much
immorality, each man should have his own wife, and each woman
her own husband. 3The husband should
fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to
her husband. 4The wife's body does not
belong to her alone but also to her husband. In the same way,
the husband's body does not belong to him alone but also to his
wife. 5Do not deprive each other except by
mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves
to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt
you because of your lack of self-control.
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Counseling verses
Sometimes God allows:
Trials
God will provide:
Comfort
When life is full of:
Depression
Fear
Worry
There is always:
Hope
God forgives you
You need to forgive
We can be controlled by:
Anger
The tongue (lying) and communications
The bible talks about:
Divorce
Alcohol and Drugs
Friendships
In the end it comes down to:
Trust
in God!
We need to spend time
Reading Gods word(the bible)
Praying
Trials
J ohn 9:1-3
As he went along, he saw a man blind from birth. 2His
disciples asked him, "Rabbi, who sinned, this man or his
parents, that he was born blind?"
3"Neither this man nor his parents sinned," said Jesus, "but
this happened so that the work of God might be displayed in his
life.
Romans 5:3
Not only so, but we also rejoice in our sufferings, because
we know that suffering produces perseverance;
Romans 8:28
And we know that in all things God works for the good of
those who love him, who have been called according to his
purpose.
1 Cor. 10:13
No temptation has seized you except what is common to man.
And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what
you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a
way out so that you can stand up under it.
Hebrews 12:11
No discipline seems pleasant at the time, but painful. Later
on, however, it produces a harvest of righteousness and peace
for those who have been trained by it.
James 1:2-4
Consider it pure joy, my brothers, whenever you face trials
of many kinds, 3because you know that the testing of your faith
develops perseverance. 4Perseverance must finish its work so
that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything.
1 Peter 1:6-7
In this you greatly rejoice, though now for a little while
you may have had to suffer grief in all kinds of trials. 7These
have come so that your faith--of greater worth than gold, which
perishes even though refined by fire--may be proved genuine and
may result in praise, glory and honor when Jesus Christ is
revealed.
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Comfort
Psalm 73:23-24
Yet I am always with you;
you hold me by my right hand.
24You guide me with your counsel,
and afterward you will take me into glory.
Psalm 91:1-2
He who dwells in the shelter of the Most High
will rest in the shadow of the Almighty.
2I will say of the Lord, "He is my refuge and my
fortress,
my God, in whom I trust."
Psalm 139:1-10
O Lord, you have searched me
and you know me.
2You know when I sit and when I rise;
you perceive my thoughts from afar.
3You discern my going out and my lying down;
you are familiar with all my ways.
4Before a word is on my tongue
you know it completely, O Lord.
5You hem me in--behind and before;
you have laid your hand upon me.
6Such knowledge is too wonderful for me,
too lofty for me to attain.
7Where can I go from your Spirit?
Where can I flee from your presence?
8If I go up to the heavens, you are there;
if I make my bed in the depths, you are there.
9If I rise on the wings of the dawn,
if I settle on the far side of the sea,
10even there your hand will guide me,
your right hand will hold me fast.
Romans 8:31
What, then, shall we say in response to this? If God is for
us, who can be against us?
Romans 8:38-39
For I am convinced that neither death nor life, neither
angels nor demons, neither the present nor the future, nor any
powers, 39neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all
creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God that
is in Christ Jesus our Lord.
2 Cor. 1:3-4
Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the
Father of compassion and the God of all comfort, 4who comforts
us in all our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any
trouble with the comfort we ourselves have received from God.
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Depression
Genesis 4:6-7
Then the Lord said to Cain, "Why are you angry? Why is your
face downcast? 7If you do what is right, will you not be
accepted? But if you do not do what is right, sin is crouching
at your door; it desires to have you, but you must master it."
Psalm 32:3-4
When I kept silent,
my bones wasted away
through my groaning all day long.
4For day and night
your hand was heavy upon me;
my strength was sapped
as in the heat of summer.
Psalm 42:5-6
Why are you downcast, O my soul?
Why so disturbed within me?
Put your hope in God,
for I will yet praise him,
my Savior and 6my God.
My soul is downcast within me;
therefore I will remember you
from the land of the Jordan,
the heights of Hermon--from Mount Mizar.
2 Cor. 4:16-18
Therefore we do not lose heart. Though outwardly we are
wasting away, yet inwardly we are being renewed day by day.
17For our light and momentary troubles are achieving for us an
eternal glory that far outweighs them all. 18So we fix our eyes
not on what is seen, but on what is unseen. For what is seen is
temporary, but what is unseen is eternal.
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Fear
Psalm 27:1
The Lord is my light and my salvation--
whom shall I fear?
The Lord is the stronghold of my life--
of whom shall I be afraid?
Psalm 56:10-11
In God, whose word I praise,
in the Lord, whose word I praise--
11in God I trust; I will not be afraid.
What can man do to me?
Matthew 10:29-30
Are not two sparrows sold for a penny? Yet not one of them
will fall to the ground apart from the will of your Father.
30And even the very hairs of your head are all numbered.
Romans 8:15
For you did not receive a spirit that makes you a slave again
to fear, but you received the Spirit of sonship. And by him we
cry, "Abba, Father."
2 Tim. 1:7
For God did not give us a spirit of timidity, but a spirit of
power, of love and of self-discipline.
Hebrews 3:5-6
Keep your lives free from the love of money and be content
with what you have, because God has said,
"Never will I leave you;
never will I forsake you."
6So we say with confidence,
"The Lord is my helper; I will not be afraid.
What can man do to me?"
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Worry
Psalm 37:7
Be still before the Lord and wait patiently for him;
do not fret when men succeed in their ways,
when they carry out their wicked schemes.
Proverbs 12:25
An anxious heart weighs a man down,
but a kind word cheers him up.
Matthew 6:25
"Therefore I tell you, do not worry about your life, what you
will eat or drink; or about your body, what you will wear. Is
not life more important than food, and the body more important
than clothes?
Matthew 634
Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will
worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.
Philip. 4:6-7
Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything, by
prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to
God. 7And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding,
will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.
1 Peter 5:6-7
Humble yourselves, therefore, under God's mighty hand, that
he may lift you up in due time. 7Cast all your anxiety on him
because he cares for you.
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Hope
Psalm 42:5
Why are you downcast, O my soul?
Why so disturbed within me?
Put your hope in God,
for I will yet praise him,
my Savior and
1 Cor. 10:13
No temptation has seized you except what is common to man.
And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what
you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a
way out so that you can stand up under it.
2 Cor. 9:8
And God is able to make all grace abound to you, so that in
all things at all times, having all that you need, you will
abound in every good work.
1 Peter 1:3
Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ! In
his great mercy he has given us new birth into a living hope
through the resurrection of Jesus Christ from the dead,
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God forgives you
Psalm 130:3-4
If you, O Lord, kept a record of sins,
O Lord, who could stand?
4But with you there is forgiveness;
therefore you are feared.
Isaiah 44:22-23
I have swept away your offenses like a cloud,
your sins like the morning mist.
Return to me,
for I have redeemed you."
23Sing for joy, O heavens, for the Lord has done
this;
shout aloud, O earth beneath.
Burst into song, you mountains,
you forests and all your trees,
for the Lord has redeemed Jacob,
he displays his glory in Israel.
Romans 8:1
Therefore, there is now no condemnation for those who are in
Christ Jesus,
1 John 1:9
If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will
forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness.
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You need to forgive
Matthew 6:14-15
For if you forgive men when they sin against you, your
heavenly Father will also forgive you. 15But if you do not
forgive men their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins.
Matthew 18:21-22
Then Peter came to Jesus and asked, "Lord, how many times
shall I forgive my brother when he sins against me? Up to seven
times?"
22Jesus answered, "I tell you, not seven times, but
seventy-seven times.
Luke 17:3-4
So watch yourselves.
"If your brother sins, rebuke him, and if he repents, forgive
him. 4If he sins against you seven times in a day, and seven
times comes back to you and says, 'I repent,' forgive him."
Ephes. 4:31-32
Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and
slander, along with every form of malice. 32Be kind and
compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in
Christ God forgave you.
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Anger
Proverbs 14:17
A quick-tempered man does foolish things,
and a crafty man is hated.
Proverbs 14:29
A patient man has great understanding,
but a quick-tempered man displays folly.
James 1:19-20
My dear brothers, take note of this: Everyone should be quick
to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, 20for man's
anger does not bring about the righteous life that God desires.
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The tongue (lying) and Communication
Psalm 19:14
May the words of my mouth and the meditation of my
heart
be pleasing in your sight,
O Lord, my Rock and my Redeemer.
Proverbs 12:18
Reckless words pierce like a sword,
but the tongue of the wise brings healing.
Proverbs 12:22
The Lord detests lying lips,
but he delights in men who are truthful.
Proverbs 13:3
He who guards his lips guards his life,
but he who speaks rashly will come to ruin.
Proverbs 15:1
A gentle answer turns away wrath,
but a harsh word stirs up anger.
Proverbs 17:27-28
A man of knowledge uses words with restraint,
and a man of understanding is even-tempered.
28Even a fool is thought wise if he keeps silent,
and discerning if he holds his tongue.
Proverbs 18:13
He who answers before listening--
that is his folly and his shame.
Proverbs 21:23
He who guards his mouth and his tongue
keeps himself from calamity.
Ephes. 4:25
Therefore each of you must put off falsehood and speak
truthfully to his neighbor, for we are all members of one body.
Ephes. 4:29
Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but
only what is helpful for building others up according to their
needs, that it may benefit those who listen.
James 1:19
My dear brothers, take note of this: Everyone should be quick
to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry,
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Divorce
Malachi 2:16
"I hate divorce," says the Lord God of Israel, "and I hate a
man's covering himself with violence as well as with his
garment," says the Lord Almighty.
So guard yourself in your spirit, and do not break faith.
Matthew 5:31-32
"It has been said, 'Anyone who divorces his wife must give
her a certificate of divorce.' 32But I tell you that anyone who
divorces his wife, except for marital unfaithfulness, causes her
to become an adulteress, and anyone who marries the divorced
woman commits adultery.
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Alcohol and Drugs
Proverbs 20:1
Wine is a mocker and beer a brawler;
whoever is led astray by them is not wise.
Proverbs 21:17
He who loves pleasure will become poor;
whoever loves wine and oil will never be rich.
Proverbs 23:19-20
Listen, my son, and be wise,
and keep your heart on the right path.
20Do not join those who drink too much wine
or gorge themselves on meat,
Proverbs 23:32-35
In the end it bites like a snake
and poisons like a viper.
33Your eyes will see strange sights
and your mind imagine confusing things.
34You will be like one sleeping on the high seas,
lying on top of the rigging.
35"They hit me," you will say, "but I'm not hurt!
They beat me, but I don't feel it!
When will I wake up
so I can find another drink?"
Luke 21:34
"Be careful, or your hearts will be weighed down with
dissipation, drunkenness and the anxieties of life, and that day
will close on you unexpectedly like a trap.
1 Cor. 6:9-10
Do you not know that the wicked will not inherit the kingdom
of God? Do not be deceived: Neither the sexually immoral nor
idolaters nr adulterers nor male prostitutes nor homosexual
offenders 10nor thieves nor the greedy nor drunkards nor
slanderers nor swindlers will inherit the kingdom of God.
1 Cor. 6:15
Do you not know that your bodies are members of Christ
himself? Shall I then take the members of Christ and unite them
with a prostitute? Never!
Ephes. 5:15-18
Be very careful, then, how you live--not as unwise but as
wise, 16making the most of every opportunity, because the days
are evil. 17Therefore do not be foolish, but understand what the
Lord's will is. 18Do not get drunk on wine, which leads to
debauchery. Instead, be filled with the Spirit.
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Friendships
Proverbs 13:20
He who walks with the wise grows wise,
but a companion of fools suffers harm.
Proverbs 23:19-20
Listen, my son, and be wise,
and keep your heart on the right path.
20Do not join those who drink too much wine
or gorge themselves on meat,
1 Cor. 15:33
Do not be misled: "Bad company corrupts good character."
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Trust
Psalm 37:5-7
Commit your way to the Lord;
trust in him and he will do this:
6He will make your righteousness shine like the dawn,
the justice of your cause like the noonday sun.
7Be still before the Lord and wait patiently for him;
do not fret when men succeed in their ways,
when they carry out their wicked schemes.
Proverbs 3:5-6
Trust in the Lord with all your heart
and lean not on your own understanding;
6in all your ways acknowledge him,
and he will make your paths straight.
Proverbs 19:21
Many are the plans in a man's heart,
but it is the Lord's purpose that prevails.
Joshua 1:9
Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be
terrified; do not be discouraged, for the Lord your God will be
with you wherever you go."
Psalm 139:1-3
O Lord, you have searched me
and you know me.
2You know when I sit and when I rise;
you perceive my thoughts from afar.
3You discern my going out and my lying down;
you are familiar with all my ways.
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Reading God word(the bible)
Hebrews 4:12
For the word of God is living and active. Sharper than
any double-edged sword, it penetrates even to dividing soul and
spirit, joints and marrow; it judges the thoughts and attitudes
of the heart.
Joshua 1:8
Do not let this Book of the Law depart from your
mouth; meditate on it day and night, so that you may be careful
to do everything written in it. Then you will be prosperous and
successful.
John 15:7
If you remain in me and my words remain in you, ask
whatever you wish, and it will be given you.
Praying
Philip. 4:6-7
Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything,
by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests
to God. 7And the peace of
God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts
and your minds in Christ Jesus.
2 Tim. 3:16
All Scripture is God-breathed and is useful for
teaching, rebuking, correcting and training in righteousness
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What the bible says about Parenting
Theme of Christian parenting
Proverbs 22:6
Train a child in the way he should go,
and when he is old he will not turn from it.
Parents are to love their children
Titus 2:4
Then they can train the younger women to love their husbands
and children…
*1 Tim. 5:10
and is well known for her good deeds, such as bringing up
children…
1 Thes. 2:7
but we were gentle among you, like a mother caring for her
little children.
Jeremiah 31:15
This is what the Lord says:
"A voice is heard in Ramah,
mourning and great weeping,
Rachel weeping for her children
and refusing to be comforted,
because her children are no more."
Parents are to teach their children about the Lord
2 Tim. 3:16
All Scripture is God-breathed and is useful for teaching,
rebuking, correcting and training in righteousness,
Ephes. 6:4
Fathers, do not exasperate your children; instead, bring them
up in the training and instruction of the Lord.
Genesis 18:19
For I have chosen him, so that he will direct his children
and his household after him to keep the way of the Lord by doing
what is right and just, so that the Lord will bring about for
Abraham what he has promised him."
3 John 1:4
I have no greater joy than to hear that my children are
walking in the truth.
Joel 1:3
Tell it to your children,
and let your children tell it to their children,
and their children to the next generation.
Psalm 78:4-6
We will not hide them from their children;
we will tell the next generation
the praiseworthy deeds of the Lord,
his power, and the wonders he has done.
5 He decreed statutes for Jacob
and established the law in Israel,
which he commanded our forefathers
to teach their children,
6 so the next generation would know them,
even the children yet to be born,
and they in turn would tell their children.
Deut. 5:29
Oh, that their hearts would be inclined to fear me and keep
all my commands always, so that it might go well with them and
their children forever!
Deut. 6:2
so that you, your children and their children after them
may fear the Lord your God as long as you live by keeping
all his decrees and commands that I give you, and so that
you may enjoy long life.
Deut. 6:7
Impress them on your children. Talk about them when
you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when
you lie down and when you get up.
Deut. 11:19
Teach them to your children, talking about them when
you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when
you lie down and when you get up.
Deut. 31:12-13
Assemble the people--men, women and children, and the
aliens living in your towns--so they can listen and
learn to fear the Lord your God and follow carefully all
the words of this law. 13Their
children, who do not know this law, must hear it and
learn to fear the Lord your God as long as you live in
the land you are crossing the Jordan to possess."
Deut. 32:46
he said to them, "Take to heart all the words I have solemnly
declared to you this day, so that you may command your children
to obey carefully all the words of this law.
*Joshua 4:6
to serve as a sign among you. In the future, when your
children ask you, 'What do these stones mean?'
Verses to give to your children
Ephes. 6:1
Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right.
Col. 3:20
Children, obey your parents in everything, for this pleases
the Lord.
Hebrews 12:11
No discipline seems pleasant at the time, but painful. Later
on, however, it produces a harvest of righteousness and peace
for those who have been trained by it.
1 Peter 1:14
As obedient children, do not conform to the evil desires you
had when you lived in
ignorance.
Proverbs 3:11
My son, do not despise the Lord's discipline
and do not resent his rebuke,
Hebrews 12:5
And you have forgotten that word of encouragement that
addresses you as sons:
"My son, do not make light of the Lord's discipline,
and do not lose heart when he rebukes you…
Luke 18:16
But Jesus called the children to him and said, "Let the
little children come to me, and do not hinder them, for the
kingdom of God belongs to such as these.
Psalm 34:11
Come, my children, listen to me;
I will teach you the fear of the Lord
Proverbs 10:1
The proverbs of Solomon:
A wise son brings joy to his father,
but a foolish son grief to his mother.
Proverbs 15:20
A wise son brings joy to his father,
but a foolish man despises his mother.
Proverbs 19:26
He who robs his father and drives out his mother
is a son who brings shame and disgrace.
Proverbs 20:20
If a man curses his father or mother,
his lamp will be snuffed out in pitch darkness.
Proverbs 23:22
Listen to your father, who gave you life,
and do not despise your mother when she is old.
Proverbs 23:25
May your father and mother be glad;
may she who gave you birth rejoice!
Proverbs 28:24
He who robs his father or mother
and says, "It's not wrong"--
he is partner to him who destroys.
Proverbs 30:17
"The eye that mocks a father,
that scorns obedience to a mother,
will be pecked out by the ravens of the valley,
will be eaten by the vultures.
Matthew 19:19
honor your father and mother,' and 'love your neighbor as
yourself.'"
What parents should hope for their children
Titus 1:6
An elder must be blameless, the husband of but one wife, a
man whose children believe and are not open to the charge of
being wild and disobedient.
Be gentle with you children
Col. 3:21
21 Fathers, do not embitter your children, or they will
become discouraged.
Ephes. 6:4
Fathers, do not exasperate your children; instead, bring them
up in the training and instruction of the Lord.
Parents must discipline their children
Ephes. 6:4
Fathers, do not exasperate your children; instead, bring them
up in the training and instruction of the Lord.
Proverbs 13:24
He who spares the rod hates his son,
but he who loves him is careful to discipline him.
Proverbs 22:15
Folly is bound up in the heart of a child,
but the rod of discipline will drive it far from him.
Proverbs 23:13-14
Do not withhold discipline from a child;
if you punish him with the rod, he will not die.
14 Punish him with the rod
and save his soul from death.
Proverbs 29:15
The rod of correction imparts wisdom,
but a child left to himself disgraces his mother.
*Proverbs 5:12
You will say, "How I hated discipline!
How my heart spurned correction!
Proverbs 5:23
He will die for lack of discipline,
led astray by his own great folly.
Proverbs 13:24
He who spares the rod hates his son,
but he who loves him is careful to discipline him.
Proverbs 19:18
Discipline your son, for in that there is hope;
do not be a willing party to his death.
Proverbs 29:17
Discipline your son, and he will give you peace;
he will bring delight to your soul.
Hebrews 12:11
No discipline seems pleasant at the time, but painful. Later
on, however, it produces a harvest of righteousness and peace
for those who have been trained by it.
Ephes. 6:4
Fathers, do not exasperate your children; instead, bring them
up in the training and instruction of the Lord.
Proverbs 29:15
The rod of correction imparts wisdom,
but a child left to himself disgraces his mother.
Parents and money
2 Cor. 12:14
Now I am ready to visit you for the third time, and I will
not be a burden to you, because what I want is not your
possessions but you. After all, children should not have to save
up for their parents, but parents for their children.
Proverbs 13:22
A good man leaves an inheritance for his children's
children,
but a sinner's wealth is stored up for the righteous.
Families should worship together
Acts 21:5
But when our time was up, we left and continued on our way.
All the disciples and their wives and children accompanied us
out of the city, and there on the beach we knelt to pray.
You must love God more than you family
*Luke 18:29
"I tell you the truth," Jesus said to them, "no one who has
left home or wife or brothers or parents or children for the
sake of the kingdom of God
Jesus loved the little children
Luke 18:16
But Jesus called the children to him and said, "Let the
little children come to me, and do not hinder them, for the
kingdom of God belongs to such as these.
Mark 9:37
"Whoever welcomes one of these little children in my name
welcomes me; and whoever welcomes me does not welcome me but the
one who sent me."
Mark 10:13-14
People were bringing little children to Jesus to have him
touch them, but the disciples rebuked them. 14When
Jesus saw this, he was indignant. He said to them, "Let the
little children come to me, and do not hinder them, for the
kingdom of God belongs to such as these.
Mark 10:16
And he took the children in his arms, put his hands on them
and blessed them.
Matthew 21:16
"Do you hear what these children are saying?" they asked him.
"Yes," replied Jesus, "have you never read,
" 'From the lips of children and infants
you have ordained praise'?"
Psalm 8:2
From the lips of children and infants
you have ordained praise
because of your enemies,
to silence the foe and the avenger.
Matthew 19:13-14
Then little children were brought to Jesus for him to place
his hands on them and pray for them. But the disciples rebuked
those who brought them.
14 Jesus said, "Let the little children come to me, and
do not hinder them, for the kingdom of heaven belongs to such as
these."
Give Godly leadership
Proverbs 14:26
He who fears the Lord has a secure fortress,
and for his children it will be a refuge.
Proverbs 17:6
Children's children are a crown to the aged,
and parents are the pride of their children.
Proverbs 20:7
The righteous man leads a blameless life;
blessed are his children after him.
Proverbs 31:28
Her children arise and call her blessed;
her husband also, and he praises her:
Children are a blessing from God
Psalm 127:3
Sons are a heritage from the Lord,
children a reward from him.
2 Tim. 1:5
I have been reminded of your sincere faith, which first lived
in your grandmother Lois and in your mother Eunice and, I am
persuaded, now lives in you also.
Thoughts on parenting
Don’t criticize your children especially in front of others
Meet their love language needs
Try to identify what they are really saying not what the are
screaming
Speak truth. Don’t make up lies to soften issues
Read your child. TV computer games equals brain cload(grumpy
etc.)
Love them enough to discipline them
Be consistent
Be forgiving
Be gracious
Play with them
Hold them
She will get love from some man, somehow. Let it be dad for
now.
Take you kids on dates
Boys need their dads time
Girls need their dads time
Dads, do not let your kids disrespect you their mom
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