Song 5:2-6:13

What was the last fight you had?

All couples fight

Can you fight clean?

I slept but my heart(Solomon) was awake.

Listen! My lover is knocking:

Was not uncommon for married people to sleep in different rooms.

What do you think Solomon wanted?

"Open to me, my sister, my darling,

my dove, my flawless one.

My head is drenched with dew,

my hair with the dampness of the night."

Possibly had been out working and wanted to be comforted by his wife.

3I have taken off my robe--

must I put it on again?

I have washed my feet--

must I soil them again? (I have a headache!)

She was not willing to meet his needs. How will this Godly man react?

What ways do you reject your spouse?

How do you respond to your mates rejection?

4My lover thrust his hand through the latch-opening;(a hole in the door)

my heart began to pound for him.

5I arose to open for my lover,

and my hands dripped with myrrh,

my fingers with flowing myrrh,

on the handles of the lock.

He had put his hand through the door to put perfume on the handle. He did not throw a fit because he did not get what he wanted. He put love on the door.

6I opened for my lover,

but my lover had left; he was gone.

He did not force his will on her. He waited on her.

My heart sank at his departure.

I looked for him but did not find him.

I called him but he did not answer.

We can not react to our mate we must respond to God.

We are never told biblically to change our mate.

We are to let God change and discipline our mate.

Let’s see if God disciplines Shulammite.

7The watchmen found me

as they made their rounds in the city.

Maybe thought she was a thief

They beat me, they bruised me;

they took away my cloak,

those watchmen of the walls!

8O daughters of Jerusalem, I charge you--

if you find my lover,

what will you tell him?

Tell him I am faint with love.

Additional verses to go along with this concept of a Godly spouse.

Gal. 5:13-15

1 Pet. 3:7

1 Tim. 3

Mal. 2:13-14

Daughters of Jerusalem to Shulammite

9How is your beloved better than others,

most beautiful of women?

How is your beloved better than others,

that you charge us so?

Shulammite to Daughters of Jerusalem

How does you mate respond when you have loved well?

10My lover is radiant and ruddy,

outstanding among ten thousand.

11His head is purest gold;

his hair is wavy

and black as a raven.

12His eyes are like doves

by the water streams,

washed in milk,

mounted like jewels.

13His cheeks are like beds of spice

yielding perfume.

His lips are like lilies

dripping with myrrh.

14His arms are rods of gold

set with chrysolite.

His body is like polished ivory

decorated with sapphires.

15His legs are pillars of marble

set on bases of pure gold.

His appearance is like Lebanon,

choice as its cedars.

16His mouth is sweetness itself;

he is altogether lovely.

This is my lover, this my friend,(spouses should be friends)

O daughters of Jerusalem.

She repents and is restored to him with much love.

 

Daughters of Jerusalem to Shulammite

6:1 Where has your lover gone,

most beautiful of women?

Which way did your lover turn,

that we may look for him with you?

Did he stomp off in anger and hide from Shulammite?

Shulammite to Daughters of Jerusalem

2 My lover has gone down to his garden,

to the beds of spices,

to browse in the gardens

and to gather lilies. (The mighty king gathers lilies. He is gentle also.)

She know exactly where he is. She knows that he did not run off in anger.

3I am my lover's and my lover is mine;(She feels one with him)

he browses among the lilies.

Is he going to bring up her mistake to keep her in line?

Solomon to Shulammite

How did he forgive?

4You are beautiful, my darling, as Tirzah, (beautiful beach)

lovely as Jerusalem, (the holy place)

majestic as troops with banners.

5Turn your eyes from me;

they overwhelm me.

He wants to forgive her not because she entices him with her eyes but because God called him to.

Your hair is like a flock of goats

descending from Gilead.

6Your teeth are like a flock of sheep

coming up from the washing.

Each has its twin,

not one of them is alone.

7Your temples behind your veil

are like the halves of a pomegranate.

We have heard this before from him about her. He is saying that she is the same now as she was then to him. Total forgiveness.

8Sixty queens there may be,

and eighty concubines,

and virgins beyond number; (women of the palace)

9but my dove, my perfect one, is unique,

the only daughter of her mother,

the favorite of the one who bore her.

He says that there are many that would take her place but he is committed to only her.

The maidens saw her and called her blessed;

the queens and concubines praised her.

10Who is this that appears like the dawn,

fair as the moon, bright as the sun,

majestic as the stars in procession?

She is totally forgive and restored. He did not hold it against her. Don’t be a historian with you mate.

Shulammite

Total forgiveness

11I went down to the grove of nut trees

to look at the new growth in the valley,

to see if the vines had budded

or the pomegranates were in bloom.

12Before I realized it,

my desire(Solomon) set me among(NASB "over) the royal chariots of my people.

He again restores her above all others in the land.

Daughters of Jerusalem to Shulammite

13 Come back, come back, O Shulammite;

come back, come back, that we may gaze on you!

This is the first time we actually see the Shulammite name in the text.

Shulammite is the females gender of Shalom which the translated Solomon.

Her name represents the fact that she is his female counterpart.

Solomon to Daughters of Jerusalem

Why would you gaze on the Shulammite

as on the dance of Mahanaim? (a great festival party)

How do you end conflict? With celebration.

Remember you must always respect your mate and forgive like God forgives.